If you find yourself looking for that new relationship, there are always red flags that will come up as you date people, and we all have our list of red flags. Red flags are warnings early on in the dating process that a person might not be the best match for you. If you have had some experience in the dating world, you can spot these red flags quickly and avoid getting hurt or hurting someone else.
Here is a general list of red flags that will surely help you in the dating world.
The early love declaration. You have just met someone and things click. You are enjoying each other’s company, getting to know each other, maybe you have gone on two or three dates. Then suddenly the person blurts out, “I love you!”. Red flag. There is a difference between lust, like, and love, and beware of people that blurt the love word out rapidly. Love takes time, it involves getting to know someone’s good and bad side, it involves traversing many different periods together to finally truly arrive at meaningful love. People must use this word with more care and respect.
Flattery. You are on your first date with a man, and he compliments you every two minutes. You are on a date with a girl and she constantly tells you how good you are, how strong you are, how beautiful you are. Red flag. Compliments are nice once in a while, but it’s like chocolate cake: you want a piece not the whole cake in one night. Flattery usually speaks of ulterior motives, so just keep your ears open, and don’t be afraid to jump off the flattery train if it gets out of control.
Distraction. You’re sitting at a restaurant, enjoying a fine meal with a date, and he constantly receives texts or calls on his iphone 4. He’s there but not there. He says all the right things but you feel he is miles away. Red flag. This scenario usually comes up to indicate a) the guy has ADD or b) he’s multi-dating or c) he’s not able to be totally into one thing at a time. A distracted date typically indicates a distracted relationship, and who wants to be with someone half-there and half somewhere else?
The terrible first kiss. If the first kiss is terrible, it is a red flag! Sorry to say but a first kiss is a great indicator of true chemistry and compatibility between two people. I was once seduced by a man who said all the right things but it turned out did all the wrong moves. Test it out: if the kiss is terrible, you’re probably better off justing staying friends or turning the page.
The dating world can be fun and exciting, as long as you can see and identify the red flags before they turn into heart-aches or dramas!